When the Harry Potter HBO series comes out, I better not be seeing any of the bullshit justifications that you guys used to justify your Hogwarts Legacy purchases.
“Oh, she won’t be making any money from it!” She’s the executive producer.
“There’s no ethical consumption under capitalism anyway!” That excuse applies when you’re talking about things that humans actually need, like food. That excuse does not apply when you’re talking about a TV show.
“I have to support the creators!” No you don’t. No you fucking don’t. If that excuse was true, you’d have to consume every piece of media that was ever created. Besides, Warner Brothers is a billion-dollar corporation. You won’t hurt their feelings if you boycott one TV show.
“But it was my childhood!” I don’t care. I legitimately do not care.
I don’t wanna go through this bullshit again. Just don’t fucking watch the series. It’s that simple.
(i learned this in a caregiving class but it’s useful in most situations i’ve been in, like not to be neurodivergent on main but sometimes you feel Bad and can’t work out why)
Hungry? eat something*.
Angry? count to ten, take a deep breath, and walk away from it if you can.
Lonely? interact with another person that you aren’t responsible for.
Tired? take five minutes to sit with your eyes closed.
also i bet your drink is going cold.
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*(if you’re not allergic, a spoonful of nut butter and a glass of liquid will keep you going, but the only bad calorie is the one you don’t have when you need it.)
It’s darkly amusing to me that some people thought my mom didn’t “discipline” me enough as a kid, were not shy about making sure both she AND I knew it, and now as an adult I’m one of the only people in my friend group who still wants anything to do with their parents. The proof is in the pudding, as they say.
When I was a kid, I broke a ceramic soap dispenser. I burst into tears and was terrified that I was going to be in trouble. My mom told me that it was okay, because accidents happen sometimes, and the important thing was that I didn’t do it on purpose and apologized.
When someone else I know was a kid, they broke a dish on accident and got screamed at and guilt tripped. To this day, they have to push down a panic attack at the sound of broken glass, and have had to actively work on healing from that trauma. They will always have to carry that.
I think maybe it’s not MY mom who fucked up in the “how to discipline your child” department. Quite frankly, I think the idea of “disciplining children” is fucked up and deeply harmful on a fundamental level.
When a kid does something wrong, you have to teach them how to fix it and do better. Humans are messy and complicated and we don’t know everything there is to know just by being born. Children are learning how to be human beings, and that’s a really hard thing to learn.
Kids question and fight back against authority that mistreats them, but someone treating them like a human being with human emotions is usually going to have a lot of success. Kids just want to be respected, and it’s our job as adults to give them that basic human dignity. The world is utterly terrifying, and made scarier when all the grown-ups seem to hate you and wish you would just shut up and go away, even the ones that claim they want you around.
Kids can be mean, because they’re still learning how to socialize and communicate and collaborate. Sometimes you have to give them time to cool off, and sometimes you have to redirect them. Sometimes you have to be firm. Sometimes you have to be an adult, and hone your conflict de-escalation and resolution skills. None of that requires punishment.
And if a child does something truly cruel and fucked up and shitty, and it hurts someone in a big way? My first question isn’t “what should their punishment be,” my first question is always, “who taught this kid that, and is this child in active danger from them?”
its been said before but media that emphasizes optimism and a kind of childlike wonder in the face of life’s cruelty is unmistakably more mature than media that emphasizes that cruelty, even though it’s not as realistic.
whats that one quote by CS Lewis.. “someday you will be old enough to start reading fairytales again.”
Media that emphasizes cruelty is written by those who dream of the battlefield.
Media that emphasizes optimism is written by those who have survived the battlefield.
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